He's Still Everything
The following entry was written by Noell Hyman of Agnostic Mom.
Should I reveal my secret?, the secret about my husband and myself? Should I risk destroying any credibility I may have with mommybloggers who read my work?
We are the couple that broke the odds. We're the couple that should not have made it past our first year. And yet, this summer we will celebrate our tenth year of rewarding matrimony. Ten years, and we're more in love, and more compatible.
So what's the secret I'm too foolish not too share? My husband and I got engaged only two weeks after our first date. And no, we didn't know each other for years as friends before that fateful date. We met the previous month in a gold-level Latin Ballroom dance class. We exchanged a few words as we rotated partners to and away from each other. We practiced together one time at an out-of-class dance lab, which led to the first date, which led to the kiss at the second date, which led to the engagement a week later. The wedding that sealed the deal came two and a half months after that.
Go ahead and say it. My friends did. My parents did. We were crazy. We were naive. We were risky and daring and probably even stupid. But lucky for us, we were right. Everything that I sized him up to be during those short fourteen days of fascination and infatuation were correct.
Ten years, three children and a dog later, he's still everything.
Comments
Well, you beat our record of getting engaged after two months.
Marriage has some pretty tough odds to begin with, yes?
But, after four kids and nearly sixteen years of marriage, it hasn't been easy beating those odds, but we're still just as crazy for each other -- and that helps.
Good luck!
Posted by: Liz | February 13, 2006 10:13 AM
You beat us too. We got engaged after four months and we are still going strong. Sometimes you just know it's right and the naysayers can just go sit on the sidelines.
Glad it has turned out so well for you!!!!!
Posted by: Debby | February 13, 2006 10:24 AM
What a great post! My husband and I share a similar story-- we got engaged within a couple of months of knowing each other, even though we lived in different countries!
At least your friends were kind and used the adjective "crazy" instead of "just plain stupid"!
But I was just convinced that this was "it" and whenever I was with him I couldn't help but think that this is how life should be!
Thirteen years, two kids and six moves later we're still going strong.
I love hearing stories like yours because it just reaffirms what I've already discovered: love at first sight encounters aren't just the stuff of fairy tales!
Posted by: Betsy | February 13, 2006 10:32 AM
My husband and I got engaged a couple months after meeting and got married a year and a half later. We saw each other only on the weekends for the first 7 months (we lived on opposite sides of the state). After 3 years of marriage & 2 kids we thought we'd never have, we're going strong. I agree with Liz, it's not easy but we wouldn't trade it in for anything. Congratulations!!
Posted by: Trish | February 13, 2006 10:34 AM
When it's right it's right and more time will not make it more right. Congratulations.
Posted by: Melissa | February 13, 2006 11:31 AM
We met each other Nov 18, got engaged Nov 29 and married Dec 16. All in the same year.
Sixteen years and six kids later, and neither one of us has made a run for the border.
That may be because we made a solemn vow that the first one to leave has to take the kids.
Posted by: carmen | February 13, 2006 11:35 AM
Awesome, Noell. I love it!
Posted by: Lucinda | February 13, 2006 12:11 PM
Good job! My husband and I got married two weeks after we met, and, two kids and almost nine years later, we're still getting along fine.(And, yes, everyone we knew said we were nuts.) I think that, along with being sympathetic, loyal, etc., etc., it is very helpful when both partners in a marriage have a pig-headed determination to Make This Thing Work.
Cordially,
Melora
Posted by: Melora | February 13, 2006 12:43 PM
I love stories like this! My parents met the second week of December and married that New Year's Eve. 35 years later, still together and happy.
Awesome.
Posted by: Nicole | February 13, 2006 12:53 PM
Wonderful...my hubby and I married four months after meeting! I am a firm believer that when you know you know.
Posted by: courtney | February 13, 2006 2:29 PM
Great story!! Hey, nothing wrong with that! Only you can know what will make you happy!!
Posted by: cassandra | February 14, 2006 9:21 AM
Great story -- my husband and I got engaged 18 days after our first day, so I know how it feels! :o)
Happy V-Day!
K.
Posted by: Chookooloonks | February 14, 2006 2:13 PM
My parents knew each other for 6 days in 1957 before their wedding day. They were married 34 years when my mom passed away.
My husband and I met on the internet and knew each other 7 months before our wedding. We're celebrating 8 years together.
When you know, you know.
Posted by: The Necklace Lady | February 14, 2006 8:04 PM
Well, it appears I'm not the only nut in this mommybloggers trail mix. Congratulations to all you awesome spouses who are making it work! Life is good.
Posted by: noell | February 14, 2006 10:19 PM
There's a lot to be said for first impressions. I always thought it'd be real quick or a long stable friendship. Turned out neither: 12yrs, 2 kids, mortgage and a buisiness later, no marraige and it's still the best thing that could have happened to me.
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