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The following entry has been written for Mommybloggers.com by Tammie Willis of Soul Gardening.
For the last several years, I have been actively searching for ways to be as open and transparent as I can be with myself and with others. This is important to me because I want to love myself and the people in my life as truthfully as possible.
Love is such a gift. It takes an incredible amount of our energy, and sometimes our courage to give and receive it. I don't think it would be possible for me to love myself or for anyone else to truly love me without as much honesty as I can muster. This means acknowledging and embracing the good and the bad parts of myself and sharing my efforts with the people I care about.
Everyone who has children tells the rest of us: "Having a child will change you forever". That phrase echoes in my mind and in my heart as I think about and strive for love in my life. I'm not a mother, although my husband and I are trying to become parents. I'm 34 years old and I have been without my own parents for half as long as I've been alive. I lost my mother to cancer and my father to himself a long time before my mother died. It's been a long time since I've experienced the kind of love that parents have for their children and it may be awhile yet before I am a parent myself.
I've thought about this a lot and it's hard for me to know if unconditional love exists outside of the relationship between a parent and a child. I love my husband more than I have ever loved anyone in my life and I know, without a doubt that he feels the same way about me. But can I truly say that there is nothing that could be done that would make him stop loving me, or me him? I don't have an answer to that question.
I do know that what I have with my husband is a once in a lifetime opportunity and that we were meant to find one another. I know that this weekend, when he held me and wiped my tears while I cried and told him I feel like I'm broken because I can't get pregnant, I was exactly where I am supposed to be and I am so thankful for that.
I believe the reason women say having a child radically changes them is that the kind of love experienced as a mother is an unconditional and life-altering experience. Loving a child and being loved in return, knowing that you would give your life to keep them safe and healthy - must change a person in the very core of their being. That idea resonates with me. I hope I am fortunate enough to experience it again someday from the other side.
In the meantime, I focus on loving myself and my husband and the people in our lives as completely as possible. It is the most difficult thing I have ever done because I want to devote myself fully to this endeavor and it is frightening sometimes. But I'm discovering, the more I give, the greater my capacity to love and be loved in return. And for now that is all I need. For now, that is truly enough.
Sometimes allowing myself to feel this way truly astounds me. Sometimes I am amazed. This feeling is what makes me want to become a parent and simultaneously terrifies me with its intensity at times. But I'm trying to get my arms around it and hold it tight. It's a gift I'm giving to myself - the same one that I hope to someday pass along to my child.
Whatever happens, I'll be ready. The love that exists in my life today is preparing me for what the future brings. And that is the best gift of all.
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Comments
So beautiful, Tammie.
Posted by: Nancy | February 12, 2006 3:30 PM
I think sometimes marriage allows us to "parent" and " be parented" in the sense that we have to take care of each other, especially when one is particularly vulnerable. It's also an opportunity to fill gaps left from childhood. A lovely post.
Posted by: Vicki | February 12, 2006 3:37 PM