Rare and Precious
Of my three children, there is no doubt that my son resembles me the most. His blue eyes crinkle at the corners like mine when he laughs, and his stubborn stance is tempered by a sentimental streak a mile wide. I'm not surprised to see myself in my daughters, even though those glimpses are fleeting. Watching my son is like seeing myself reflected in a wind-tossed pond. There are ripples of difference on the surface, but underneath, we are the same.
As the middle child between two alpha-female sisters, he keeps a running monologue going. It doesn't matter if we hear every word, only that we acknowledge that he is speaking. From the moment his eyes open, to the moment he drops in exhaustion, he is expressing himself verbally. He lights up as he chatters about dinosaurs, his most frequent topic. Lately, however, he has been delving into sentiment:
"Mommy, I'm going to miss it when my little sister isn't a baby anymore. I'm going to miss her chubby little hands and her sweet little giggle." He offered this little tidbit as we were driving home from an activity. I looked into the rear view mirror to see his eyes welled up with tears as he reached across the gap between the passenger seats to hold his little sister's hand as she slept.
Oh, brother. I feel the same way about watching my youngest grow up, but you don't see me all weepy about it. Sniff, sniff. When he heard that my dear friend Nicole is pregnant with her first child, he was overjoyed, and mentions "our new baby cousin" all the time. "Our baby cousin is going to be so sweet and soft! Our baby is going to have the cutest little cheeks!" Kid better not get any ideas about having any more siblings. I'm just sayin'. This mama is done. Finito. The end.
He gets weepy every time we drive past his old preschool. He reminisces about his happy days there and wonders if his "young friends" remember him fondly. "They liked me there. They really liked me," he offered as he sniffed and rubbed his eyes with his fists.
His other ongoing fascination is with heaven. And more specifically, dinosaur heaven. Is it the same as people heaven? Do I think that when he dies he'll be reunited with his dinosaur friends? Do I think that when he was a little baby angel he had an apatosaurus for a playmate? Do I? Huh? Huh? Do I think so? Mommy?
I never expected that my son would be so emotional. It certainly isn't the notion of little boy that I once imagined. Then again, nothing about parenting has been the way I pictured. I knew there would be love, and drool, and diapers and weeping and learning, but I never knew that my 'realistic' ideas about motherhood would be watered down versions of my reality. First of all, I never imagined that 'learning' would be so exhausting for everyone. And that I had so much to learn. The weeping...joy, pain, and every parade. The diapers. The drool. And the love. It's like every expectation I had grew a thousand-fold.
My son and I, we're a couple of stubborn, sentimental saps.

















Comments
I think it's nice that he is so expressive of his emotions. And that you two can have that in common. My oldest son is emotional and I like that little part of him that is like me.
Posted by: Melissa | April 7, 2006 4:55 PM
I read your posts about your older kids and I become hopeful that my life of diapers and whining and filling juice cups will one day be filled with moments like the ones you describe.
Your son sounds like such a sweetie!
Posted by: Mary | April 7, 2006 11:39 PM
What a touching post!
My oldest is also the most like me, sentimental and wears his heart on his sleeve. He's 12 now, and the years seem to have gone past in such a blur. Even though he is now the typical "pre-teenage boy", I still see the three year old whose eyes welled with tears at the first notes of a beautiful piano solo. These are the moments I will remember forever. I have a feeling that these memories are going to help us through the bumpy teenage years!
Posted by: Amy | April 9, 2006 12:33 PM
What a doll! It never fails to amaze me when I see or hear about young kids who express genuine affection for babies and toddlers.
Oh how I hope you can protect his tender heart as long as possible.
Posted by: Julie | April 10, 2006 10:24 PM
Good Lord this posting was making ME emotional. hehe Your son sounds like such an amazing little boy and I imagine he must bring about the thought of tears often with you due to his adorable outbursts. :) too cute.
Posted by: diana | April 11, 2006 3:52 AM
Terrific blog you got. MonicaX
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