Let's start a Mommy War to smash the patriarchy and seize control of the media!
Christina Rosalie: Oh there are so many. I had no idea, before I became a parent, how highly politicised parenting is. I'm a middle of the road girl, I think--but I'm okay with people holding extreme views so long as I'm not pushed to espouse them.
Kelsey: Silent Birth! gah!!
Chris: I am tired of mothers being pitted against each other. So any issue that polarizes mothers I am tired of hearing about.
Julie (mothergoosemouse): All of those that are divisive. Let's talk some more about how to enact some real social changes.
Susie Sunshine: I'm ready to declare jihad on the whole "Mommy War" dealio. Some moms work outside the home, some don't. Everyone needs to find the way that works best for them and enjoy a nice cup of shut the fuck up, already
Krystyn: Most all of them, especially when they're labeled as an "issue". I think each parent has their own way of doing things, and each child responds to different situations uniquely. It's not up to us to criticize how other people parent (in most cases.) I think "parenting experts" spend a lot of time writing articles about "the right way" to do things in regards to pediatricians and medicine/vaccinations and discipline techniques and potty training... I wish there was some way to focus that energy (and money & resources) on more important issues. It would be nice if we could all stop trying to win the "best parent" competition and instead try to better the lives of children who have no parents, moms stuck in abusive
situations, dads who don't have enough education of their own to help their children with homework, families who don't have the resources to provide their children with basic needs... I could go on and on but I think you get the point.
Chris: Oh, there are lots. The evil modern parents who supposedly can't say no to their kids, the supposed 'Mommy Wars' (nice construct there, media types, get us fighting amongst ourselves so we don't turn on you), the damage parents are doing to their kids by being too attached, or not attached enough, or by giving into them too much or not giving in enough. It all drives me crazy - couldn't we just have support for parents instead of demonizing them?
Her Bad Mother: Mom versus Mommy.
Dawn: Mommy wars. Some guy is laughing his ass off at how we canabalize each other.
andrea from the fishbowl: The Mommy Wars. I refuse to read about it anymore or participate in the discussion. Gah. People. STOP IT ALREADY!
Kris: This one's easy: "Mommy wars." I hate to even write it down.
Kristen Chase: Oh, god. There are so many. I'm kind of over the whole breastfeeding in public thing for sure. And, dare I say, the mommy wars? There's way better stuff out there to get all huffy about.
Susan: The "Mommy wars." Seriously.
landismom: The mommy wars. I'd like to think that it's okay for different people to make different choices, and for us to recognize that there is no one-size-fits-all way to parent, any more than there is for anything else we do in our lives.
Mary Beth: Working motherhood and "mommy wars." I'm definitely NOT sick about hearing about regular moms getting politically active, though. That I love.
Nancy: Not so much an issue, but the whole "mommy wars" debate is so old. We all need to recognize that we are women first, mommies second, and ultimately individuals. What works for one woman and mom may not work for another. We need to respect others' choices and be respectful of them, and we need to forge positive relationships with one another based on what we have in common, not look for ways to exacerbate differences.
Surcie: Anything that pits mothers against each other. So, I
guess that includes pretty much everything! Attachment parenting, breastfeeding, working outside/inside the
home, etc.
Jen at MUBAR: The so-called Mommy Wars. We are all doing are best so, please, enough already.
Jaime: The media hyped so-called "mommy wars." I think no matter what label is slapped on your mommy forehead...SAHM, WAHM, WOHM...you're a mom first and foremost. All the other stuff I would consider additional toppings. And besides, most moms I know are just too darn busy to get hyped up over labels or who is "working hardest." Most moms are doing the best they can. It doesn't matter if they drive to an office building five days a week or if they work on a laptop in their kitchen in their pjs or if they are CEO to a 2-month-old. Mothering is a full-time job in and of itself.
Carolina Fernandez: The Mommy Wars. Yuck. C'mon. We're all in this together. We all work at some point, stay home at some point and have the same issues (vomit, ear infections, homework issues, teacher conferences....it's all relative.
Danigirl: That's got to be a tie between the new Canadian Choice in Child Care allowance and the Mommy Wars. I'm entirely sick of hearing about both of them!
Donna Schwartz Mills: The Mommy Wars.
Liz: Quite frankly, the Mommy Wars is pretty much played out on my "whine list." We need to get over ourselves (I am trying) and not worry so much about whether or not someone else's choice is going to make or break this whole mommy-thing. And I hope that -- when my girls grow up and are ready to start a family -- future generations will find a way to make peace with their decision(s). It's up to us Mommies (and Daddies) to set an example -- as we all know that our kids "watch" and "hear" everything that we do, especially when we think they're not looking, while we're acting like a bunch of boneheads! Yeah, hearing about "The Mommy Wars" is getting on my nerves and Lord knows my kids have already staked their claim...on my last one...a long time ago!
Karen Rani: Issue? How about issues: Keep your kids away from creeks and rivers in the spring because of the run-off. Fence your pools. Train your dog not to bite your kids. Feed your children nutrious food. Don't spank. Don't yell. Don't let your kids suck on pennies. Duct tape is not a form of discipline. Stuff like that. It's the same repetitive media hype year round.
Laura: All of them. Moms should stick together instead of being so dang judgemental. The wars are getting old. We're all doing the best we can for our families and our unique situations (because every child IS unique) and that should be enough. Unless, of course, you're some crackhead junkie Mom who forgets to feed her kids for days on end and has a butch boyfriend who likes to use them as punching bags - THAT is what bad parenting is all about (and what we should be warring against), not whether or not you breastfeed, co-sleep, cry-it-out, immunize, etc.
Ms. Mamita Mala: The mommy wars - I'm too busy working and raising my kid as a single mom to care

Everything. Just shut it.
Zoot: All of them. Seriously. I am just sick of hearing mothers who all obviously are trying to do what's best for their children, arguing over what is best for each OTHER'S children. Cloth/Disposable CIO/Ferber Bottle/Breast - everyone is arguing about everything when we should just all respect that we are doing what we think is best, and that is a blessing.
Jaime: Pretty much all of them. Most issues are generalized and so are their solutions and we all know that (a) every child and every family is different and (b) ya gotta do what ya gotta do.
Angie: Most of them! Currently, I'm tired of hearing about educational choices and how I should make the same choices for my children as Person X does for their children. There is no way anyone can know my exact situation or anyone else's, for that matter. Why can't we all just get along?!!!
Alana: Yah...pretty much all of them.
Marla Good: I’m sick of hearing that there are issues! It’s all issues! Everything is an issue! Issues everywhere! All the time with issues! There is anything that is not an issue! Did you even know about all the things an “issue” can be when asking this question – nouns, verbs, transitive verbs...!? But...if I were to think of issue in this sense: (formal or law) - children of one’s own: he died without male issue. I would have to say I am awfully sick of Mary Lee Pfeiffer’s issue. Wow, has he ever managed to make himself look like a twit lately. And I cannot believe I just Googled Tom Cruise’s mother’s name. And I am sure my answer to this question is heinously ungrammatical."
Leah: All of them. Already. I'm a pretty staunch libertarian, so I have a
very "You do your thing and I'll do mine and as long as we don't mess up each others' things we'll get along fine" attitude, but obviously very few other people do. However, since I've hit the wall on these so early, I've already decided that I just can't care. People are going to think you're wrong no matter what you do, so you may as well just ignore everyone.

The SAHM vs. Working Mom Debate.
Amalah: Staying home vs. working outside the home. Shut up. Shut UP!
Pamalamadingdong: staying at home vs working
Nicole: I'm so so tired of the SAHM versus WOHM debate. What we'd all like to have is a sugar daddy and a nanny, but that's not happening. So instead, we argue that one decision is better than the other, leaving out the part about it being better "for my family".
Bella: I regularly think about and am simultaneously sick of hearing about debates about working vs. staying at home. It bothers me to see women tearing down other women's personal and difficult choices about their families.
cmhl: I have very little tolerance for the working mother/ stay at home mother debate. Having been on both sides of the fence, I can say that each role has significant challenges inherent to the position, and each role is not easy. All parents (hopefully) are doing the best that they can for their children, and just because someone else may be doing things differently, doesn't meant that they are doing things wrong...
MrsDoF: Whether a mother should work at a job other than being a mother. Every woman has to decide for herself, and each family has to compromise in so many ways. Sometimes the money or the sanity or the energy comes out at the top.
Debutaunt: Stay home mom vs. working mom. I only work because I have to, not because I want to (I'm a single mom)
Jennifer Nybo: I am sick sick sick of women battling one another over who is better...the ones who stay home or the ones who work. It's hard enough in this world being a woman...why do we feel the need to put one another down for personal choices?!
DrumsNWhistles: Stay-at-home-moms versus working moms. Moms should be supporting each other and not critical of the choice to work or stay home with the kids. It's all about what works best for each family.
Margaret: Stay at home versus working moms
Sweatpantsmom: Working mom? Stay-at-home mom? Being a stay-at-home mom who also works from home, I’m getting a multiple-personality disorder trying to figure out what side I’m on. Also, the next person who asks me “And why DON’T your kids play soccer?” I’m going to set them on fire.
: SAHM vs working moms - I think I'm most tired of trying to perpetuate a drama that might not exist w/o external pressure from media. As moms, most of us are already putting pressure on ourselves anyway - I DON'T NEED HELP PRESSURING MYSELF! Any time you have kids - whether you are workin' in your house or out (or both!), it adds a whole 'nother layer to your life that no one can even fathom. I think it's time for moms to let other moms just be.
Shawn Lea: Stay-at-home moms versus working moms. We're all moms. Get over it.
Lisa B: The whole working mom vs non-working mom issue is so tired. Personally, I don't care if someone stays home or works. A mom's gotta to do what she feels is best for her family. And if you feel you are doing that either by working or staying home, then yeay for you!

Boo Hoo. Suck it up and take charge.
Amanda: Honestly? I’m getting sick of hearing about how HARD it is. I think parenting is as hard as you make it and most people set totally unrealistic expectations of themselves. Kids need three things: love, food and shelter. Everything else is basically assvice.
Cissa Fireheart: How American kids are obese. Yes, we as parents are responsible. If you don't want your kid being so fat, then give them FRUIT or healthy snacks, and don't buy the junk in the first place! It really isn't THAT difficult of a concept. JUST SAY NO! I am guilty of this as well, but have begun the task of buying less junk and more healthy snacks.Now all they ask for is cheese sticks and apples/oranges.
Goober Queen: Hurting a child's psyche. You are the parent. So parent already! Some things are non-negotiable. Period.
Buffi: So many to choose from... probably the whole "self-esteem" thing that has been circulating for the past decade or longer. Since when do we have to worry about their self esteem?? They need "choices." And "clothes that fit." And "three meals a day" (plus, some parents give...snacks! can you imagine?). And a "good education." Suck it up kiddo, life is tough! The sooner you learn to shut up and color, the easier things will be
Jane (Mamacita): I get pretty tired of hearing people talk about self-esteem, UNLESS it is the earned kind. Any other kind is a scam, a farce, a joke. It's earned or it doesn't exist. I also get really disgusted with parents who have raised their kids with a sense of entitlement, or who run interference between the child and the consequences of his/her actions. BooBah.
Mega Mom: Something that could be solved if the parents were willing to go through a few days of hell. Sleeping comes to mind (don't send me hate e-mail, I KNOW it isn't always that easy, but lots of times it is).

You. I"m talking to YOU.
Sleeping Mommy: Home schooling versus Public Schooling versus attached parents versus the rest of us who suck and obviously don't care about our children because how could
we send them out into the cold cruel world. Sorry. This is not meant as an indictment of homeschoolers. It's a personal pet peeve with one certain individual."

Oh My God. We're Supposed To Have Issues?
Vicky: Cry-it-out vs. Soothe to Sleep? Breastfeeding vs. Formula? Attachment Parenting vs. Utter Abandonment? Huh..what? I never considered any of this when my kids were babies. Is that why my son got an A minus on his math test last week?
Krisco: Tummy time. Give me a break. Eventually your child
will walk, roll-over and crawl, probably not in that order. If you have to torture them now to make sure it all happens "ON TIME", I fear for their future. Start that therapy fund now!
Sarcastic Journalist: "Stay at home moms! They're not lazy!" No shit.
Jen3: I think that my babies fussiness is due to teething. That explains why they won't sleep. Or eat. Or ... do anything that they're "suppose" to do.

Sweet Dreams
Brandi (ohhmama): Sleep advice. Whether to let your baby cry it out or not. Leave the poor mother’s alone, take the advice that interests you and toss out the rest.
Jazzy: The "right" way to get children to sleep. All children are different and all parents are different and there is no right way to do anything.
Anne: Sleep issues. Or possibly just how much harm we working mothers are doing to the next generation.
Mama C-ta: Getting babies to sleep. PLEASE PEOPLE STOP TALKING ABOUT IT. I don't want to hear how well or poor your kid sleeps, don't care what you are doing about it and do not want your advice on how I can get my kid to sleep better or how well you think he should be sleeping by now. It's pretty much a losing debate.
Danelle O'Shea: Breastfeeding and co-sleeping. If you ask me both are fine for a few months, after that I think you're asking for trouble. I also think it's really unfair to your husband to put the kids in bed with you.
Holli: Co-sleeping. I had some pretty big opinions about this when I didn't have a child of my own and my family was allowing my niece to sleep with them. But then I became a single, working mom and felt like some of the best bonding time I spent with my daughter was at night. So sue me - I have a 2 year old who thinks my bed is her bed. And actually, it is. And I LOVE it. But don't think I don't hear about this.. constantly. Either I get my own words from way back when thrown in my face "I thought you would NEVER have a child sleep in bed with you???" (smirk) or I get all the negatives so-and-so read about, saw on Dr. Phil, etc.. I've read the books, talked to my pediatrician. I know the pros and cons. I decide what's best for MY family. Do I sound defensive? GAH!

Living Vicariously
Heather Brewer: I'm so tired of hearing about sports. I'm not a sports mom. My children are more of the artsy/bookish/musical types. But it seems every parent I run into feels the need to share their sports stories with me and whine about getting to this game or that. I could understand if the kids were really into it, but half of the kids I meet only participate because of their parents. Give kids time to just be kids. Their adult lives will be overrun by schedules.

Education
Jenijen: Universal Preschool. Curse you Rob Reiner!! (I'm shaking my fist in the air while typing!)
Steph: school uniforms

Everyone's an Expert...
EmmaSometimes: Immunization debate.
Dawn: Only sick of hearing from people who DONT have children.
kalisah: Online preditors. Not that it isn't a problem. Just that the media's treating it like the HOT TOPIC of the moment where the more twisted and shocking the story, the more airtime it gets. If your child has access to a computer and you're not taking the proper steps to protect him, you probably suck as a parent and I bet you haven't warned your kid to stay away from drugs either. Seeing the 13-year-old on the Today show who ran his own porno site isn't going to make you say, "Hmmm, maybe I should take that webcam out of Junior's bedroom."
Shelley: I get tired of the "only child" versus "big family" debate, when it's based on the "we can give one so much more" argument. It makes me very sad that some parents don't realize that the love you have to give mysteriously and miraculously expands when you have more children to give it to, so that there's always enough to go around. And love? That's the only thing you have to give that really matters.

I just can't stop talking about this stuff!
Mrs. Darling: I cant think of any. I eat, live, and breathe parenting so I just embrace all the issues. Thats all me and my friends talk about!
Mrs. Mogul: I don't have any topics I am sick with yet. I'm a new mom so I'm constantly learning and asking questions.
Hula Doula: I honestly can not think of one

And really, it can be quite educational. Or whatever.
Mir: The EEEEVILS of television. Whatever. Sometimes the TV is all that stands between my children and certain death.
Lisa Stone: Parents worried about too much TV/Computer/etc. Just. Say. NO.

Spanking or Stress-free Discipline
Stacy Quarty: No-stress discipline, meaning don’t ever put your child under stress. Always explain why that child should not hit his friend, Billy, in the head with a brick in a calm and positive manner. Yelling, time-outs and punishment should never be used. I don’t know about you, but I think these non-stressed kids may grow up to be psychotic.
Captain Mom: To spank, or not to spank. It's become so divisive. FYI, we spank. A bit. When necessary. And I've been called a child abuser for it. Ridiculously divisive.
Erin-erin-bo-berin: Spanking. It's kinda like politics: Everybody's got an opinion and they are certain that their opinion is the right one. The right decision is the one that works for your family!

Teens Are Not The Enemy!
Mary of Owlhaven: I hate that people gripe about how horrid teens are, as if it is a given that all teenagers are terrible people. That just isn't true! I have three teenagers, and they are some of the nicest people I know.

Potty Training - either it will happen, or we'll buy Depends. Sheesh.
Mary Tsao: Probably potty training because it looms in my distant future and I'm dreading it. I'm sick of hearing how I'll just "know" when my kid is ready because at this point, all I know is that she'll be taking her Pampers with her to college.
Jerri Ann Reason: Right now, potty training is the only issue I have on my mind. My son is huge for his age, 3. At 42 pounds and 42 inches tall, if he doesn't get the hang of using the dang potty soon, he really will be wearing depends. But, the one I am SICK of hearing about is formula versus breast milk. It is hard for me to speak condescendingly about people and their choices because I really believe people are good and do what is good and right. I don't think any mother sets out with the intention of giving her child second best. Some of us have to make choices such as our own health versus formula and breast-feeding. And, others simply can't make it work. For some reason though, when I read about these issues, the ones pointing the fingers fail to realize that ideally mothers are good people, doing good things for good reasons. So, I get sick of hearing which is best. To me, what is "best" is "what is good for your family". If you are doing that, then screw the debates.
Margalit: Potty training, attachment parenting, picky eaters, the terrible twos, and more than anything, co-sleeping. I don't have a problem with any of them per se, but they have absolutely nothing to do with raising teenagers and are completely irrelevant to my life.
Stacy: Potty Training. I want to start with my toddler and already I'm over it."

Enough with the labels, people.
Kenya: Whether or not to be an attachment type parent. Just love your baby to the best of your ability, ladies. That's all that they know, that's all that matters. Trust me, they are not reading the latest literature on it, it only matters that they get all the hugs and kisses and warmth and kindness you can give.
Michele Yoakum: ADHD/ADD I think it's over used and when someone's got an ill-behaved child or someone's doing a bad job at parenting, they slap the label of ADD on the child and presto all the pressure is off of them.
Melissa: I am so sick of Attachment Parenting vs what? I guess the opposite of AP is unattached. It literally makes me want to pluck my eyelashes out when I see it brought up online and in real life. Because really, I think every mother is making the best decision she knows how to make and I want to support other mothers, not tear them down over following or not following a certain practice. And I think some parents get a little carried away with it and loose sight of what all women want, to raise happy healthy children.

Just let me feed my baby and everyone else needs to shush.
Baseballmom: I guess that there are a few parenting issues that I am totally sick of...breast vs. bottle is a big one, because as long as the kid is getting fed...whatever works. I also hate the stay home vs. working mom thing-we all love our kids and do what we have to do depending on our situations. No one's way is better than anyone else's, and people need to accept others' opinions without trying to change their minds!
Martha: Breast versus bottle. Enough already. Just feed your kid and shut up about it.
KCB: I’m sick and tired of hearing and reading about nursing mothers being harassed for feeding their babies. There was an incident in a nearby town earlier this week where a nursing mom was harassed for “indecent exposure” in a public venue. The policy was resolved in favor of nursing moms after lots of parents called in to “educate” the powers that be. We shouldn’t have to keep doing that.
Kira: I'm sick of all of them. Let's face it, people, none of us are getting it right all the time. Stop scrutinizing your performance as a parent and enjoy your kids, already!
Elaine: No. We do not have to stop nursing just because my daughter has teeth now. That would be RIDICULOUS. Crazy people.