Cars Dads Boys
The following entry was written by Eric Sagalyn from More Diapers.
Eric also writes for The blogfathers:
I love cars. I've posted at length about my love of cars and my fear that my son wouldn't share that love. As he learns to talk, it's quickly become obvious that I have no need to fear -- he loves cars.
He talks about them day and night. "Car" is usually the first word he says when he wakes up in the morning and one of the last things he says when he goes to bed. He wants everything to be a car. I can relate.
I know, I know, it's stupid to like something so material and expensive and... well... silly. It's not like a spend my day watching NASCAR (which, incidentally, I bores me), though. No, I just have dreams about cool sports cars, trucks and one day owning a Lotus.
Yah, like I said, stupid. Maybe even shallow. But, that's me. Me and my son.
So, as a car lover, I was greatly disappointment that my father didn't really care about cars. I think it stems from the fact that he has the mechanical aptitude of a tree. The coolest car he owned was a Honda Accord Coupe. The car he talks about as a child was his Corvair -- Corvair! I mean, don't get me wrong, I couldn't have had a better dad. Fact is, I wouldn't trade any of his qualities for him to love cars.
Instead he humored me as a rattled off the zero to sixty times of a Lamborghini Countach (BTW, has anyone seen the Lamborghini website http://www.lamborghini.com? Badly need a redesign.) or went into rapture when a Delorean passed. He set up a "play date" with a friend of his who owned a Porsche 930, to this day the fasted car I have ever been in. Man, he even squeezed into the little, tiny jump-seat in the back as we zoomed around the hamlets of Connecticut. He made time for my love, even when he would have much rather I wanted to go golfing (yuck!) with him. Yup, that's my dad. I'm one lucky guy.
So, when I married a girl who loves cars almost as much as I do, I thought the chances of us having a child that liked cars was pretty good. Girl or boy, it could happen. It should happen. It did happen.
As an adult I now realize that my dad had to work to find commonalities between us. And he did. We have much more in common as adults as we did when I was a kid. But that didn't stop him from reaching out, making the connection and letting his love do the rest.
I've got it a little easier, I guess. Regardless what path my son takes, what crazy life experiences he has and what likes we may not share, no matter what, I know we'll always have cars. To me, that's a great starting point. Of course, if, God forbid this is just a faze, I've got that love thing to fall back on, too.

















Comments
Nicely put. My husband and I's entire families are car enthusiasts. While my hubs wanted a boy to share his love of cars w/, when he got a daughter, he was not to be disappointed. She loves them, plays with toy cars,likes to watch cars, ride in cars, make car sounds, you name it. She comments on their colors, and on their size. The tradition has been passed on.
Posted by: Charli | June 16, 2006 10:21 AM
What a great post on Father's Day! Thanks for sharing.
Happy Father's Day to you!
Posted by: Overwhelmed! | June 18, 2006 2:02 PM