Ladies, welcome to your tribe
Have you ever heard or read something and thought, "I wish I had said that! That is so what I have been trying to say!"? I have recently been reading...actually devouring... Arianna Huffington's book On Becoming Fearless. In one of the first chapters she quotes actress Rosanna Arquette in what I think is one of the most brilliant statements I have read in a while. After reaching out to other during the process of producing a film called Searching for Debra Winger, she states (and here is where it gets good):
"It set me on my path to stay positive...to connect with other women, my tribe. We have to cut out competition, because we are all on the same path of fearlessness, to be truly who we are, and this is our birthright! It's time we support and love each other in what we want to do in life so we can look at each other and know we are safe. Let's celebrate each other's individuality, blessings--and cellulite."
Yes! Exactly! Now, in the book she was being quoted in a chapter on Fear About the Body, but is that not exactly what we all would love to happen. Especially with people shoving the Mommy Wars down our throat?
Work at home, stay at home, work from home. Have children, child free, infertile. Married, single, straight, gay. Look around you. The women around you are your tribe. We are all in this together. Even the woman you don't agree with... she is part of your tribe. Even the woman whose choices you would never make in your own life...she is part of your tribe.
It is our birthright to become whom we are meant to be. How can we do that if we are not supporting each other in whatever choices we make? We all have our own lives to live. Our own choices to make. They are ours. They are how we are finding our way. They may not line up with yours, but our job in this life is not to be carbon copies of one another, but to support each other. To truly support each other in a way that each of us knows that we are safe. Safe from judgment. Safe from being mocked for who we are. Safe from having to be put in the forefront of a controversy we did not create.
Look around you, ladies. This is your tribe. Embrace it. Suporrt it. And let's keep it safe from judgment.
Comments
Thank you for saying it. I wish more people would. Women are the worst at judging other women. We need to stand together.
Posted by: Brony | September 12, 2006 9:06 PM