Mommybloggers: Hi, Stefania! Thanks for joining us!
Stefania: Thank you for having me! I've admired the work you all do for The Mommy Bloggers and all your other 4,562 blogs for a long time now. You are amazing women and such talented writers. Thank you for all the work you do to support and promote women who blog.
Mommybloggers: You amaze us with your prolific blogging – has writing always been a passion for you?
Stefania: I've always loved writing but blogging definitely awakened a new passion in me. I love the immediacy of blogging and the fact that you don't have to be a writing expert in order to blog. I'm not a writer, I'm a blogger, and I say with pride.
Mommybloggers: You've lived around the globe, and have a culturally diverse family – tell us a little bit about your background.
Stefania: I was born in Honolulu, Hawaii to a Korean-American mother and an Italian father. When I was younger we lived in Rome (where my dad still lives today) until I was 4. Then my parents divorced, and my mother and brother I moved back to Hawaii. When I was 11 my family moved to the San Francisco Bay Area where I've pretty much been ever since (though I went to college in Los Angeles and recently did a 16 month stint in Portland, Oregon).
I've worked since I was 14 years old. I didn't have to, but I've always been fiercely independent. I liked the autonomy of working (and still do). Looking back it was probably a good thing. It kept me out of trouble. I've done everything from busing tables to teaching third grade in an inner city school. I was an Art History major (You were right, Mom, I'm not doing anything with it...), but my background is in Marcom, specifically co-marketing/co-branding. I bounced around Silicon Valley doing various marketing jobs for most of the 90's.
Teaching was the hardest job I ever did, but it prepared me for parenting. Marketing is something I never thought I'd have the opportunity to go back to (I was a stay-at-home-mom for three years before I started working again and that's an eternity to be away from the corporate world), but my experience helps me tremendously not only in my blogging but in other projects I am working on. I've learned that every job prepares you for something (hopefully) better down the line.
I live in San Francisco with my daughters (ages 4 and 2) and my husband (our 12 year anniversary is next week!). My husband and I lived in San Francisco for many years before kids and also when our older daughter was born. We moved back to San Francisco from Portland 8 months ago. Our second daughter was born while we were in Portland. We are now experiencing the fun and frustration of trying to raise two girls in an urban environment. (Mostly, it's fun!)
Mommybloggers: We're impressed with your pop-culture savvy and ability to extemporize on everything from breaking news and world events to the latest episode of Rockstar: Supernova. How do you stay so in touch with it all?
Stefania: I am a media junkie and always have been. I read the paper, listen to NPR, subscribe to all kinds of magazines...I cannot get enough information. News headlines flash across my monitor multiple times a day, I've loaded up my Bloglines blogroll with everyone from Arianna Huffington to Perez Hilton. I read BBC news, the Korea Times, CNN World News and other international news sites for a world view. Thank goodness for feed readers like Bloglines! Without Bloglines I couldn't possibly stay as in touch as I try to do. There are always more feeds to add to the blogroll and y'all know that just creates more blog fodder!
Mommybloggers: CityMama is a delightful mash-up of urban parenting, lifestyle commentary, entertainment and food. We particularly love the cheeky attitude you infuse all your entries with. How much of yourself do you bring to your blogs?
Stefania: I bring *most* of myself to my blogs. I am much more reserved in person than I am on my blog which is why I love blogging so much. When I blog I can be the person that most of my close friends and family already know. I can jump right in without wasting time on polite, "getting to know you" formalities. It takes me a little while to warm up to people I don't know well and I've been told that I can be a tough nut to crack. I am definitely more guarded in person. I think this surprises people when they meet me for the first time. Sure, I'm not as "sassy" when I first meet people and I certainly don't swear as much (!!!), but underneath it all, CityMama is me. My blog lets me cut through the B.S. and get to the heart of what I'm thinking and feeling.
Mommybloggers: Is there anything you consider off-limits for blogging?
Stefania: I don't blog about anything that my family or friends might find hurtful. My intention is certainly not to do that. That's a personal choice that I make.
Now that my daughters are getting older, I'm also careful about what I'm sharing about them. While I do view my blog as a sort of baby book at times, I like to keep most of our family experiences private.
Mommybloggers: You've been a professional blogger for a long time. How do you stay motivated?
Stefania: I love blogging. It's so fun! That is my biggest motivation. I have so many interests that I can always find something to write about. I am very thankful that I have the opportunity to write about different topics for different sites and get paid to do it. That helps to keep me motivated as well.
Mommybloggers: We have to ask – what do you think of the term "mommybloggers?" Do you consider yourself a mommyblogger?
Stefania: I don't mind the term "mommybloggers" at all. I definitely consider myself a mommyblogger, but I am also a cultural blogger, a food blogger, an entertainment blogger, a beauty and style blogger, a parenting blogger...Mommyblogger is just one of the hats I wear, and I wear it proudly.
Mommybloggers: You're also a gifted photographer – we love the "Bunny" and "Wallie" photos, as well as your other gorgeous work. How do you capture such wonderful images?
Stefania: Now, I'm laughing. Gifted? Me? You must have me confused with someone else. I definitely love taking pictures, but I think my photography professor would be very irritated with me (she hated photos of children). I haven't touched my "real camera" in years. Hooray for digital cameras! Let's just leave it there.
Mommybloggers: Alright – let's talk about Kimchi Mamas. We're fascinated every time we click over…what inspired you to start this collaboration?
Stefania: I actually didn't start the collaboration. It was Nina of Charlie and Nina's brilliant idea. She approached me and then together we approached all the other Korean (or married to Korean ) mom bloggers that we had reading. It all came together rather quickly. Since I'm experienced with the logistical side of blogging I handled that. I think Nina saw a blog need that was screaming to be filled, and I am so happy that she did.
Being raised Korean and then raising Korean children and talking about it is a concept that is not only new to most Koreans (who, if I many generalize, tend to be private), but also an experience that has been underrepresented in all forms of media. Kimchi Mamas came together in a matter of weeks and the content just started to flow. This is why I love blogging. We couldn't have put together a magazine or newsletter or book in this amount of time. With blogging, if you see a niche—any kind of niche—you can fill it immediately. (AggroQueen anyone?)
I know I'm biased but I think the writing on Kimchi Mamas is so compelling. We represent all aspects of Korean family experience: being raised Korean both in the US and in France, being hapa (half Asian) and those particular cultural experiences, being married to Koreans and adjusting to family life, and what it means to be a Korean adoptee. I feel so honored to be blogging along side such talented women.
Mommybloggers: What do you hope to accomplish with Kimchi Mamas?
Stefania: We've never talked about a mission statement or anything like that. I think we just want to shed light on our particular experiences and make connections with others who might be able to relate. I know that feedback has been extremely positive. I love that I can read through the comments on our posts and see so many similar experiences. If any of the Kimchi Mamas are reading this, perhaps they can comment and add their own particular thoughts on the matter.
Mommybloggers: Tell us about FamilyFood – it is obvious that you love to cook. Where did you get your passion for food? Can we come over for dinner?
Stefania: My passion for food definitely came from my mother. She's an expert Korean cook, an expert Italian cook...just an excellent cook in general. Growing up she made pasta from scratch, canned her own jams, made her own fruit leather and candies, planted amazing gardens and cooked right from them. She was into "slow food" before it became a trendy food movement. She even bakes, which I don't like to do. She taught me everything I know about food and cooking. I remember standing on a stool watching her roll out pie dough or sauteeing duxelles...now my children do the same and nothing makes me prouder.
You can come over for dinner anytime! I love having dinner parties!
Mommybloggers: We admit it. We just can't get enough of you, Stefania! Where else can we find your writing?
Stefania: You are too kind. Really. In addition to blogging CityMama, Family Food and Kimchi Mamas, I'm a Contributing Editor (Books & Entertainment) for BlogHer. You can go there and read my film reviews and movie commentaries which pale in comparison to all the other great writers featured there.
Mommybloggers: We've heard that you've got other, even more ambitious projects in the works. Care to tell us about them?
Stefania: I've just helped to (beta) launch a new website called ParentsConnect. ParentsConnect is a new online community where parents, prospective parents and other caregivers can quickly find and easily share advice, ideas and opinions-- even laughs. At ParentsConnect, parents - who have 'been there, done that' -- are the real experts. The site's key features include personalized home pages that update dynamically, Host Parents (like me!) who help keep discussions lively and blog on the site, and local advice and kid-friendly listings powered by GoCityKids.
What I like about ParentsConnect is that it's for all for ALL parents – as well as grandparents and caregivers – not just moms, and not just those who share one particular philosophy or experience. Along with that, ParentsConnect is for parents of ALL kids. You won't feel ignored on the site if your kids are over 6 – or over 16. And, best of all, there's no walled-off premium content on ParentsConnect. Sign-up is free and members have access to all the content.
ParentsConnect's 20 Host Parents were hired through a nationwide search based on their background, parenting experience, writing ability and enthusiasm for helping other parents get connected to information and to each other. I'm proud to be part of that group and I hope that people enjoy the site! (But keep in mind, this is a beta launch. There is much more to come!)
Mommybloggers: We're thinking the world needs a Stefania podcast or videoblog. Have you thought about branching out to include more media?
Stefania: Oh, no no no. Dear God, no. The world definitely doesn't need that. I haven't seriously thought about branching out. I like the idea of podcasts and am interested in learning more about how to do them, but other than that, no. I'm happy doing what I'm doing. I don't want to write a book or anything like that. I just want to blog. To me, there's nothing better.
Mommybloggers: And here are the questions we subject all of our featured bloggers to (With apologies to Bernard Pivot and Inside the Actors Studio):
1. What is your favorite parent related word? Daughter
2. What is your least favorite parent related word? Nanny (I just hate the way it sounds. I use one myself, but I cannot bring myself to call her that.)
3. What is your favorite creative censored curse word used around children? Shiznit
4. What is your favorite hiding place within your home when you need to get away from it all? Smack in the middle of my bed with my laptop in my lap and the tv on in the background.
5. What hiding place have you been found in too often and can no longer use? My office. It's the most enticing room in the entire house. We may as well call it the playroom now.
6. If Oprah exists, what would you like to hear her say when you arrive at the Oprah Winfrey show when she features the Mommybloggers? It's a tie between: "I didn't know mybestfriendGayle went to your high school!" (She did!) and "I want to apologize for letting Dr. Phil loose into the world. If I'da known he was such a numbnuts, I never would have given him his own show. I'm terribly sorry."